Why do we say that after middle age, changing your temper is like changing your life?

Wang Yangming said: A narrow mind is the root of disaster, and an open mind is the door to happiness.

Venting your bad temper at will is like constantly digging holes for yourself;

People with good tempers are often more likely to be favored by fate.

After middle age, changing your temper is like changing your life.

Fighting queen Zhang Weili was a hot-tempered person when she was young.

Whenever someone said something wrong, she would get angry and even fight.

As a result, because of her bad temper, she was fired from any job after a short time, and often lived a mealless life.

After experiencing the hardships of life, she finally learned to restrain herself.

Later, when she started practicing fighting,

her whole personality had become very gentle.

In 2020, 30-year-old Zhang Weili played against Polish player Joanna

Before the game, Joanna provoked Zhang Weili in every way,

and even threatened to her face: "I will definitely beat you up!"

Zhang Weili listened, but was unmoved,

just shook her head and smiled.

In that match, Zhang Weili played steadily and calmly.

In the end, she successfully defeated Joanna and won the UFC championship, the world's top fighting competition.

The change in her temper made her go from a loser in life to a winner in life.

Hong Yingming, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, said: Those who are irritable and rough will achieve nothing; those who are calm and peaceful will be blessed.

In the life of middle-aged people, everyone will meet Buddha one day and devil the next.

The more irritable you are, the easier it is to lead to defeat; control your temper, and you will have a chance to turn the tide.

When you are emotional, learn to restrain yourself and cool down your mind.

Only by changing your bad temper, maintaining a peaceful mentality, and calmly dealing with the difficulties of life can you give your life a new look.

The Book of Proverbs says: "He who is slow to anger is better than a warrior.

He who subdues his own heart is better than taking a city."

It is instinctive to have a temper, and it is a skill to control your temper.

Here are 3 tips to help you control your temper and embrace a better life.

1. Follow the 12-second rule

Research has shown that when we are angry, our anger can only last for 12 seconds.

After these 12 seconds, your emotions will be relieved.

Every time you are impulsive, consciously remind yourself to count to 12 seconds.

With this short cooling-off period, your excitement will slowly calm down, and your temper will also dissipate.

2. Master the Emotional ABC Method

The Emotional ABC Method is known as the master key to emotional management.

Direct effect:

A sudden event → B attitude → C behavioral result

Indirect effect:

A sudden event → C behavioral result

Simply put, your temper is not directly caused by something, but comes from your view of it.

When you withdraw from the event and look at it from another angle, you will find that many things have a positive side. As long as you don’t exaggerate the consequences, you won’t trigger intense emotions.

3. Keep insensitivity

Host He Jiong once said:

"You have to learn a word called insensitivity. You have to be less sensitive to many things, be a little duller, and slower."

Most of the anger and anger in life often come from your oversensitivity.

Learn to keep insensitivity, don’t take anything too seriously, and you won’t be easily angered by external stimuli.

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