This marriage can't continue! I was preparing to get married, and yesterday my family had a meal with the girl's parents to discuss the expenses.
In the middle, we were casually chatting, ignoring the following situation. Bride price: 66,000. This money my younger brother is paying himself; I didn't think much and agreed. (The three gold items were 15,000 already purchased.) House: My family has already bought the house, paying 870,000 in full, with my parents spending nearly 500,000. Girl's side: The girl's side requires adding her name, and her parents agreed. We finished discussing the house.
Renovation: The points of conflict started to accumulate. Parents: Offer 100,000 for simple decoration, 20,000 for furniture. They wanted the girl's side to provide the appliances but didn't say it directly, hoping the girl’s side would mention the amount themselves. Girl's side: The girl's parents remained silent. Finally, the girl's father spoke up, saying that the kids should handle the appliances themselves! (This fell back on me again,) after saying this, my mom pinched me (I would be in trouble when I got home tonight)...
It's settled), but I didn't dare to make it clear.
The situation has become a bit awkward! After discussing the renovation, my parents already had some expressions. Wedding: Other expenses are not worth mentioning; surely my family will cover it (initially, miscellaneous wedding expenses not including the banquet total 40,000). The key issue lies in the banquet, the girl's side demanded...
The girl's side booked 50 tables (a total of 100 tables, 90 for the banquet and 10 as backup). The girl's banquet costs (around 50,000 or so, but the key is this gift money...
Money is collected separately.
Parents: 50,000 is not too much, parents...
I agreed, but my mom probably couldn't hold back any longer and directly asked about the dowry issue. Mom: These two kids work quite far from where they live, transportation isn't very convenient, regarding the dowry items, why don't you take a look, mother-in-law? (Dowry car) Girl's side: Transportation is quite convenient now; it shouldn't be a problem in the future, right? (I was already speechless; my parents had already turned their faces.)
Mom: (Can't hold back anymore!) What do you think about the girl's dowry situation? (The wording is no longer polite) Girl's side: There is only this one daughter, but we are indeed not well-off and can only provide around 30,000 as dowry money. (Didn’t you just give me 66,666?) Mom: (Doesn't want to push too hard) Still insists that it would be best to include a car as part of the dowry.
Girl's side: Still insists that the car is too expensive.
I can't afford it. However, the dowry money has been raised to around 40,000. In the end, the dowry asked...
We ended up discussing unhappily, and my dad, the peacemaker, diverted the topic...
It's become a family affair. The meal ended, and I gave 9999 as engagement money. Each side...
We went back to our respective homes. On the way, my mom had a displeased expression and directly told me that if her family is only including that little in the dowry, then one, the house can't add her name, two, the banquets must be separate, and three, after marriage I have to give my parents 1,500 yuan of my salary each month for them to save for me, fearing the girl’s family would take all the money to give to her parents.
Then she asked me to call my girlfriend when I got home. Once home, I called my girlfriend in front of my mom and explained the situation to her. On the phone, my girlfriend started to argue with me. She said we could have separate banquets, but the house must have her name added. She also said that her family only has her as a daughter and can't add financial burden to them; if she gets married, there will be two elderly people at home with no one to take care of... Her parents raised her, it wasn't easy, and so on.
Hearing those words made me furious. Your family raised you, it wasn't easy! My family raising me was easy, now it's not like the ancient times where you can't casually go back to your parents' house; both sides are equal. Our marriage is a matter between two friends. If after marriage you cut ties with your parents, I will agree to all your demands. Right now, all the money is from my family; are you planning to sell your daughter? In the end, she said some unpleasant things, stating that if I couldn't afford the money, then don't get married! I replied: You said that! And then I hung up the phone. Now my phone has been bombarded with calls; my girlfriend and our mutual contacts, I didn't answer any of them.
Mom probably saw that things were getting serious and came over to persuade me to have a good talk with her. If it really doesn't work out, just leave it like that. Don't ruin the joyous occasion.
I didn't say anything and went back to my room. After thinking about it, I felt too angry and smashed my OPPO find x3 phone. I just want to ask everyone if there are any recommendations for a phone around 3000? The situation is quite urgent!
