How is a person's upbringing reflected?
1. Respect
Something happened to me in high school. There was no water supply in the dormitory. Everyone was in a hurry to take a shower and go to class, so they had to run to other students' dormitories to get water.
But getting water is one thing, and you can't cut in line. So one classmate ignored the person in front of him and kicked away the person's water bucket at lightning speed and got the water himself.
The man fetching water asked him, "Why did you cut in line?" He said as a matter of course, "I just want to finish washing early and lie down on the bed. What's it to you?" I almost couldn't help but hear this.
This seemingly insignificant matter actually reflects a person's cultivation. Although the incident has long passed, the feeling of "being cut in line" will never be forgotten.
Respect is the basis of harmony in human relationships and the core manifestation of a person's inner cultivation. Even a thank you when receiving a takeaway, good morning to the sanitation lady, or not poking at other people's pain points are all manifestations of mutual respect in life.
2. Don’t cause trouble to others
In our traditional culture, "not causing trouble" is always a manifestation of benevolence and morality, for example: "Throw away the garbage created in public places into the trash can; put the things you don't buy in the supermarket back to their original places; and clear away all the garbage when you move out after the lease expires."
This reminds me of a time when I was in school. There was a female classmate who looked very quiet, but her behavior made me admire her. Every time she borrowed a power bank from someone else, she would return it fully charged. If someone was tripped by a stone on the road, she would move the stone to the side of the road to prevent others from being hit. She never made any noise when others were studying or resting quietly.
On the contrary, I have a roommate in my dormitory who smokes several cigarettes every day, and he smokes directly at the door of the dormitory, without caring about the feelings of other "non-smoking roommates" at all.
This reminds me of a sentence in How to Win Friends and Influence People: "People who only think about themselves are hopeless. They are uneducated, no matter what kind of education they have received."
The simplest education is not to put yourself in other people’s shoes, but to at least not create trouble for them!
3. Stick to your morals even when no one is paying attention
There are news reports of children picking up shared bicycles, and in real life there are also adults who ignore fallen bicycles. This reminds me of the saying: "You can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep."
Education has nothing to do with age, and even less to do with environment. A person who is kind at heart will always stick to his kindness and bottom line no matter what the circumstances or who he meets.
A person who abides by the law, respects the elderly and loves the young in public, but does bad things behind the scenes when no one is paying attention, is not well-educated, but a disguise under the pressure of public opinion. Once he goes to an unattended corner, his true colors will be revealed.
A truly well-educated person never needs to be restrained by others. Even if there is no one around, he or she will not spit or damage public property. This is a spontaneous behavior that is engraved in their bones.
4. Don’t use your own standards to judge others
My teacher once told me a story. A man went to a steak house and told the waiter that he wanted a well-done steak. The customer next to him laughed and said, "I never eat steak well-done. I can tell you are worldly-wise." The waiter nodded awkwardly and said, "I'm sorry, sir. We don't have well-done steaks here."
The man left after hearing this and said, "Whether the steak is done or not can be determined by the cooking time, but how well done I eat the steak should be decided by me."
The teacher said that it doesn’t matter how well done the steak is, what matters is who defines how to eat it and whether he really wants to eat it that way. I was confused at first, but later I understood after more experience:
"To use your own knowledge to demand others, to correct others' behavior to prove yourself, is in itself a sign of lack of education!"
5. Willing to take responsibility
Some manners cannot be faked. When I was a child, my neighbor’s best friend broke my remote control car and offered to compensate me with his favorite four-wheel drive car. When I grew up, I knew how to call home often, buy some gifts for the New Year, and give red envelopes to my parents. They took care of me before, and now I take care of them.
A well-educated person will regard responsibility as a way of life. He will be responsible for his work at work and for his family when he gets home. He will be responsible for everything he does and for whoever he is with.
If a person loses the most basic sense of responsibility, it means that he will fearlessly challenge the moral bottom line! #sui #bnbgreenfield #axs #etf #zkevm
