How to cultivate your own bandit spirit
Those who can make their way from the bottom
have a bit of bandit spirit in them
Honest people tend to have more than enough decency but not enough bandit spirit
They can't do anything big
1.
Don't let people boss you around or control you easily when you first meet them,
Some people (especially women) always ask you to close the door, pour a glass of water, bring something, they are testing whether you are easy to control
(Maybe they don't even realize this is a test).
As you agree,
They will ask more and more of you, bigger and bigger.
In the end, you become a rotten good person they won't thank you in their hearts.
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2.
Learn to reject others, that is, find all kinds of excuses:
I'm busy now, I have other things to do...
Your tone should be firm and concise, don't be vague, don't make it seem like it's your fault if you don't help him.
The most important point is
When you reject someone, don't look at their reaction.
The second is to follow the principle of value exchange,
If someone asks you for help, you also ask them for help. For example:
"Can you help me move something?" "Okay, my cup is empty,
You go and fill it up for me" If he agrees, you can help him. If he refuses, you have a good reason to refuse him.
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3.
Have the courage to be disliked
Don't be afraid of being disliked by others, you hate me I hate you too most honest people like to please others, the essence of pleasers
is to use being liked by others to maintain their own sense of security.
If he thinks
Everyone likes him he feels safe.
He feels that some people don't like him or even hate him, his sense of security will be lost, he is embarrassed to refuse others,
The essence is actually afraid of being hated by others, destroying the sense of security in his heart.
The only way to solve this problem is to try to make yourself go on a path of self-improvement and self-reliance, gain strength, and use strength to maintain your own sense of security.