马斯克说我30岁养成了一个终生受益的习惯I developed a lifelong habit of benefiting at the age of 30就是每次在我遇到了It's just that every time I encounter让我感觉不对劲的事情之后what made me feel something was wrong冲突也好 不公正的待遇也罢Conflict or unfair treatment我都会用我自己的语言把它们捋顺I will use my own language to smooth them out并且用自洽的框架解释出来And explain it in a self consistent framework这个解释可以是对一个特定的人说出来This explanation can be spoken to a specific person也可以选择写出来，自己再来看You can also choose to write it out and read
如果你感觉到了不舒服却不表态
If you feel uncomfortable but don't express yourself
那么你就一直处于没有话语权的状态
So you have been in a state of no say
更重要的是这些困扰在未来的生活工作
More importantly, these troubles will affect our future life and work
还是会迟迟不断的找上你并无限放大
I will still keep finding you and zooming in endlessly
每次我和我的工程师伙伴吵架的时候
Every time I argue with my engineering colleagues
我有一个让彼此都非常受用的点
I have a point that benefits both of us very much
就是我会保持冷静地对他说
I will remain calm and say to him
现在请把你的感受和观点分两边给力说
这么做的好处
The benefit of doing this is that
你会越来越有底气，智慧和勇敢
You will become more confident, wise, and brave
因为用自己的语言去解释一个事件
Because using one's own language to explain an event
本质上做这个动作的底层逻辑
Essentially, the underlying logic behind doing this action
就是在塑造自我，强化自我
It's about shaping and strengthening oneself
哥德说过：任何在积累知识的同时
Goethe once said:Anyone who accumulates knowledge while
却不思考如何去善加利用的人
People who don't think about how to make good use of it
