The most favored phrase of 2024 is "Look inward," and I'm gradually putting it into practice!

Coincidentally, Teacher Wu recommended a book called "The Courage to Be Disliked" a few days ago, and I happened to encounter account limitations, so I had the time to read this book.

Upon flipping through it, I realized that the famous saying, "A person's life is always about compensating for the deficiencies of childhood," is a theory by Freud. Please don't mock, I haven't read much, 🤣

I also learned that Freud is associated with "causal theory," which means everything has a source.

In contrast, in "The Courage to Be Disliked," Adler represents "teleological theory," which states that the reason you cannot change is because you have made the decision to "not change."

It might be a bit convoluted, but the general idea is: you first decide not to change, and then you believe you cannot change. For instance, I used to go to KTV with friends and never sang, giving the reason that I can't sing, but in reality, I was afraid of singing poorly, providing myself with an excuse.

In life, when communicating with my close friends, I like to say that for everything, one should first find their own reasons, with the reasoning being, "You cannot change others, but you can change yourself." This aligns with Adler's "teleological theory."

Although many things in real life have reasons for happening, "teleological theory" often seems like a form of sophistry, but using "teleological theory" as a means of self-reflection can indeed help one improve!

I somewhat resent being too busy; this is the second time this year I've lamented that I should read more! 🥺