1] Why is it that the more you are kind to others, the more unbridled they become, and the better you are to others, the more arrogant they become?

Are you responsible for the current situation? Because the reason why others are arrogant is nothing more than two essential reasons: first, because you have no principles; second, because you have principles, but you don’t have the courage to defend your principles.

2] The reason why a person bullies you and controls you is because he thinks he has figured you out. He thinks you are a coward and has no bottom line, so he dares to be unscrupulous and reckless in front of you. Just like everyone is very polite when they first come into contact, because they don’t understand each other’s personality, brand, and strength, so they won’t be presumptuous. In every contact in the future, the other party is actually constantly testing your temper. If in this process, the other party realizes that you are a cowardly person, then he will definitely intensify the test of your bottom line until he understands you thoroughly. Once you have formed a relatively fixed "he is strong and you are weak" mode of getting along with him, Then it will be very difficult to change.

3] So no matter who you get along with, even if he jokes with you in a relatively gentle way, as long as you feel uncomfortable, even if you don't fight back, you must learn to look at him expressionlessly and let the air condense instantly. Let him know that you are a person's bottom line and a thorny person. Through such a psychological game, let the other party understand that he should be careful about the degree and consider your feelings when talking to you and doing things in the future. So your position in the hearts of others is established step by step, and it is not blindly good to him, blindly tolerant and forgiving, and then he has a place in his heart. This is a big mistake.

Remember, any long-term relationship is not because of your surrender to others, but from others' awe of you.

4] Sometimes the more you are willing to help someone, the cheaper your sincerity will appear. And usually a little cold, occasionally lend a hand, others will be grateful. It's just that the bad guy does a good thing, and it seems that there is a reason to forgive. And as long as the good guy does a bad thing, there is often no room for forgiveness.