I think a large part of this is due to seeking externally too much. To conclude: everyone has their own god within, but it has yet to be awakened; one must seek internally.
Abandon fantasies and embrace reality. In this world, only you can believe in yourself; no one will help you for no reason. First, you need to have value, then others will be willing to collaborate with you.
First, define seeking externally: placing oneself at a low position, relying on others for hope, not daring to bear the consequences, and feeling secure only from others' immaturity.
Many people are poor precisely because of this; decades pass in a daze. These people usually like to compete with others, enjoy arguing, and showing off their cleverness.
Generally speaking, the higher one's knowledge, value, and status, the less one needs to suppress others, please others, or seek validation through arguing and other means.
Many people want to do something groundbreaking in their youth to prove their exceptionalism, but after entering society, they face setbacks and gradually realize they are just ordinary beings, leading them to resign themselves to fate, ultimately trending towards mediocrity.
However, people are like this: if you think you are mediocre, then you truly are. If you feel that you have truly lost, then you have.
On the contrary, if you observe those who are arrogant, ruthless, and make others uncomfortable, those who are cruel and ruthless become wealthy, living particularly well without any psychological pressure. They play when they should, and when it comes to careers, they work hard, pursuing what ordinary people consider 'goddesses' and engaging in high-level experiences that others rarely partake in. This is the truth of the world.
Once you place yourself in a low position, everyone will feel inclined to elevate themselves above you. In the end, anyone can yell at you, and at that point, you will no longer be seen as human.
This is the result of seeking externally. Little do you know, failure is the norm, and success is the exception.
Therefore, the vast majority of people tend to consider themselves incapable due to setbacks, ultimately leading to mediocrity, while a small number of people become 'chosen ones' due to luck.
If you seek internally, with the goal of pursuing personal growth, such situations typically do not occur. Hemingway wrote a book (The Old Man and the Sea); no one can defeat the old man, not even the sea.
As Lei Jun once said, I believe I will definitely start a great company.
Because of personal growth, as long as you take action, you will see results. Moreover, due to your continuous pursuit of personal growth, the ultimate results often surpass those of external pursuits.
I previously said in my internal group that if you want to make money, you should never speak negative words or show negative attitudes, otherwise wealthy people will run away upon seeing you. If you are having a hard time and think everything is unfair, it is very difficult to break through if you do not change. Is everything really unfair? Why don't you learn, ask for advice, and strive to execute?
A person's thoughts have great power; every sigh, helplessness, and resentment you express erodes your energy in your subconscious.
All things are one. If you treat yourself this way, others will treat you the same, and you will encounter yourself in the abyss.
This is the humanitarian law of cause and effect in the universe, so do not complain, and there is no need to complain, because it does not solve any problems.
Buddhism has a saying: 'Originally, there is nothing; why bring in dust? Everything is 'inherently sufficient,' meaning that internally, one lacks nothing.
What we need to do is shift from 'seeking externally' to 'seeking internally,' constantly digging into our own potential.
In the vast majority of people in today's society, most are driven by money. There is nothing wrong with this. It is precisely this drive that allows us to communicate with the external world, continuously seeking within and exploring our own potential.
A sense of existence, a sense of satisfaction, and the meaning of life are also contained within the pursuit of making money, and love is no different.
Many people worry about this and that, and do not believe that making money is easy. They limit themselves early on, setting up obstacles for things that have not even happened.
If you feel that you are still on the wrong path to making money, my suggestion is to start with some small money-making tasks (working for others doesn't count). Failure is not the mother of success; small successes are the mother of success because they build your confidence.
So how do you achieve 'small successes'? My suggestion is to earn some small money, see how others make money on the internet, and just copy and paste. Once you successfully earn, you will find your previous misconceptions laughable, and you will feel, 'So this is how money is made,' and 'It turns out I am quite capable.'
As long as you find your feeling, you will naturally be full of confidence about the future, just like when I created my public account. I thought it would be very difficult, but in reality, it turned out to be so simple, and you gain real confidence rather than just empty encouragement.
Once you build confidence, continue to execute, reflect, and review, then more 'medium successes' and 'big successes' await you.