My advice to 20-year-olds is to have a goal, preferably a more secular one, such as how much money you want to make in ten years, and to focus on finding successful cases, reliable, achievable and replicable paths to achieve it. Avoid socializing and wasting time in your life that do not generate benefits, and take a break if you are tired, and then get back on track to regain your energy.
When you have money, you will have a choice.
Then you may have the opportunity to choose a close partner, be nicer to your parents, have a group of like-minded friends, and have love, friendship and family affection.