My mindset may only be as small as a sesame seed.
Yesterday I experienced several things that had a huge impact on me, and I didn't go to sleep until after 3 am.
My wife was woken up and asked me why I wasn't sleeping.
I asked her: Do you think I am particularly unsuccessful?
She looked a bit confused and asked me what was wrong.
Maybe in her eyes, we have done quite well coming out of a small county step by step, but after experiencing a series of events yesterday, I feel like I am too unsuccessful.
It’s probably the following few things:
A few years ago, there was a trading boss I had a good relationship with; now his business is thriving globally, and I have witnessed his journey.
A few years later, that person has already accumulated a fortune of billions.
And I can only seek some cooperation space within others' business structures.
The second thing was having dinner with Xia Xueyi last night.
If the boss above made me see the gap in my upper limits, Xia Xueyi directly broke through what I thought was my lower limit.
This guy's story is quite stimulating and exciting, and he is also a controversial figure. When there is an opportunity, I will chat separately; here we won't talk about right and wrong, just my personal feelings.
I originally thought I was someone who had suffered a lot, and sometimes I would recall how difficult my journey has been, how amazing I am.
I often compare myself with peers around me to highlight how great I seem.
But after chatting with Xia Xueyi yesterday, he said he had slept in bridge tunnels, lived on a weekly tutoring fee of 40 yuan, and even relied on prostitutes for a period.
Compared to him, the suffering I experienced is completely trivial, so there is no need to be self-sentimental.
He is a child who came out of a mountain village in Guizhou, and he has come this far completely relying on his own beliefs.
So it's only right that he has more wealth than me; who told him to endure more hardships, who told him to have stronger beliefs.
The third thing is that my assistant was on the phone with another assistant discussing recruitment because to build a team, we must first deal with HR, and I want to find an HR who has previously worked in a short video operation company, so that the team-building speed can be faster.
The assistant feedback said that our salary packages don’t seem to attract people; there were some inquiries, but not much interest.
I fell into deep silence.
I know this matter is simply because I couldn't bear to spend money.
The reason is simple: when we were in a small city, the salaries were at that level, but after moving to Hangzhou, the living costs and talent acquisition costs here are high, and if I want experienced talents, I must pay a corresponding market price, which is higher than what I paid before.
So at that time when setting the salary, I still held a fluke mentality, wondering if I could recruit first.
All thoughts exploded at this moment, many things surged into my mind like a tide, converging into a river at this moment:
Will such a big boss nitpick two or three thousand yuan when recruiting employees?
All successful companies will struggle with when to formalize and when to provide social insurance for employees?
A salary that meets market prices + complete social security benefits, isn't that what all properly operating companies should bear?
All the bosses who can get things done seem to have never lost on treatment, right?
Because only in this way can you unite capable people to work hard for you!
And why am I so petty? Because I see them as costs rather than assets; in my eyes, they are expenses, not profit-generating individuals.
So why do I think this way?
Because when I was doing training during the last bull market, I maintained a team of dozens of people, and the monthly salaries were a huge cash flow pressure for me, especially when the market was unstable, student recruitment was greatly affected, but personnel salary costs couldn't be reduced by even a penny.
Even later, in order to ease cash flow pressure, I ended up making many short-sighted decisions.
So every time I think of this scenario, I can't help but have a bit of a stress response - I need to control the personnel expenditure costs.
Especially this year, I have been doing asset recovery all by myself, and my cooperation with partners is also zero-cost cooperation - if we make money, we share it; if we don’t make money, we bear the costs ourselves.
The previous trauma + current positive feedback makes me reluctant to offer competitive salaries for recruitment.
But what I want to recruit are competitive elites because I don’t want the team to be too large this time.
Aren't I just thinking nonsense?
Is my mindset really this limited?
I really have not achieved anything!
Last night, in the middle of the night, I almost couldn't help but slap myself a few times.
I even say that others make big moves while being cautious and forget their lives for small gains; where do I get the face to criticize others?
Isn't that how I am?
The boss of the exchange can offer employees a salary of one million per year.
Xia Xueyi, who trades cryptocurrencies, can borrow 10 million to increase his position.
All I do is complain online every day, feeling proud of collecting a few members, looking at how much interest has been earned in U-based finance in OK, and thinking I'm amazing for helping others recover some assets.
I even got into online arguments; am I that low?
Being self-righteous and having a small mindset, doing things carefully but not achieving much.
This is my critical summary of myself.
Actually, at every stage, I will have a review and critical summary of myself, and the depth of my reflection sometimes scares even me.
In my past thirty-plus years of life, this moment of stepping into the mud for myself counts as the fifth time.
Every time I pull myself down from the sky into the mud, I question myself layer by layer, until I shatter my pride and dignity, and realize I am a complete fool.
Every time after a reset, I become a stronger version of myself, and this time is no exception.
While writing this article, my assistant sent me a message, and I told her that I have figured out the recruitment issue: what matters is that the person is suitable, not that the salary is suitable.
Maybe it's because I have stayed in a small place for too long, I always have many limitations; when I had dinner with Xia Xueyi yesterday, we also talked about this. Fortunately, we both realized our limitations and made corresponding changes.
If you want to do big things, you have to adapt to the rules of doing big things.
If you want to make big money, you need to have the elements to make big money.
What do you all think?
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