Many people don’t understand one thing:
The core of interpersonal relationships is not how to deal with it, but who suppresses whom.
For example, in life, two unrelated people who have no dealings with each other don’t need to deal with each other at all. You can deal with them if you want, or block them if you want.
This is not the case in the workplace, because the hierarchy is strict, and in most cases one party suppresses the other. To put it bluntly, you can’t afford to offend them.
In addition, there is no situation where one person suppresses the other. For example, colleagues are actually a group of strangers who need to cooperate with each other, but because your cost of betrayal is very low, this superficial calmness is easily broken.
For example, I have seen people who openly quarrel with their colleagues in order to please their leaders or to stand in a hurry to take sides;
I have seen people who do not hesitate to push the blame on others for the sake of a tiny benefit or because they are afraid of getting involved in something;
I have seen others think that you have violated their interests and that you are a loser when you work hard, and then they want to mess with you;
I have seen your apprentices or colleagues who bite you in the end in order to get promoted after you help them everywhere...
Do you think that the above situations are problems of not handling the relationship well? Obviously not.
If you are capable and you are a favorite of your leaders, no one can afford to offend you, and others will always think about how to handle the relationship with you.
And when you always think about handling the relationship with others, you are essentially a weak person. If you are like this with everyone, you are an object that can be bullied by everyone. No matter how you think about "handling" it well, it is actually impossible to handle the relationship with others well, because everyone likes to pick on the weak.
Isn't that what happened to Lin Chong? He always wanted to give in and live a peaceful life. As a result, his family was destroyed because his wife was obsessed with the leader's son. Would the leader dare to do the same thing if it was Wu Song?
Finally, the best solution is to make yourself stronger, increase your importance in the eyes of the leader, improve your ability, be more tough, and let others handle the relationship with you.