The most important thing I have learned about human nature after turning 30 is that unless the other person expressly asks for it, or sincerely comes to pay for advice, I try to restrain myself from actively giving advice and help to the other person. There are three reasons:
1. Self-protection: Those who are most often bitten are often not hunters, but veterinarians.
2. Self-esteem: Unsolicited help often hurts the other person’s self-esteem.
3. Self-help: You cannot wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep. The other person will not change. No matter how hard you try, you will be asking for trouble. No matter how much you help, the other party will never thank you.
I don’t want you to be cold-blooded, I just want to remind you, “If you want to do good things, you must first have a strategy!” I didn’t understand this truth before I was 30 years old, and I suffered a lot of hidden losses. I was obviously doing good for others, but I offended many people unintentionally. If you like to be a teacher, you will inevitably make enemies on all sides. What most people need is not help from others. As long as they have an outlet to vent their emotions, having a meal with them, chatting and comforting them is far more practical than giving them any help or advice.
Put aside the need to help others and respect the fate of others. Before you put mud on the wall, have you asked him for his opinion? Did Mu Mu talk to you? Without you to help him, what else is it to be a bitch? Mud on the ground can nourish flowers. Why are you helping it up the wall?
