Being abandoned forever by those closest and dearest is something that everyone will definitely experience. However, sometimes this happens suddenly and brings up a lot of feelings. Feelings of sadness, anger, destruction, disappointment and other mixed feelings. This feeling is normal for everyone who has just lost. However, if these feelings start to interfere with daily activities and last for a long time. So we need to pay more attention to ourselves, because if we leave it alone it can cause psychological disorders such as depression, PTSD and other disorders.
There are several ways to restore feelings and circumstances after loss:
1. Acknowledge feelings
try to admit my sad feelings. It's okay to feel sad, to grieve. Sadness is a very natural response when we lose someone we love. Don't deny these feelings, because it will make it more difficult for us to recover.
2. Give yourself time to grieve
Try giving yourself time to grieve. For example, listening to sad songs, playing back sounds, videos or photos. Again, don't try to forget that memory, don't deny it. Because it will make it even more difficult to recover.
3. Ask for support
When you are sad because you lost someone. The thing that we are definitely afraid of is that we feel alone and lonely. When we need someone to talk to, try telling someone. This can ease the feeling of sadness you feel.
4. Make future plans
When we feel sad, we may be able to cheer ourselves up by doing things that usually make us happy. For example, like walking, watching or other things.
5. Forgive yourself
When you lose a loved one. Sometimes there are still unfinished feelings. There are feelings of guilt, there are feelings of anger and other feelings. Try to forgive yourself, acknowledge those feelings and forgive yourself. Try hugging yourself and saying that I have forgiven everything. This can make you feel calmer and lighter.
